Comments on: Making time for everyone’s life but her own… http://womenatforty.com/2009/12/making-time-for-everyones-life-but-her-own/ Life. Love. Reality. In our fortieth year. Sun, 29 Jan 2012 02:14:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: jennielaurie http://womenatforty.com/2009/12/making-time-for-everyones-life-but-her-own/comment-page-1/#comment-445 jennielaurie Sat, 10 Apr 2010 07:10:11 +0000 http://womenatforty.com/?p=724#comment-445 Tanya,<br>I too know the syndrome well. You did better than me...I didn't bother to make appointments for myself except the critical ones...the ones I needed to have to be able to go on for others - my bipolar medication appointment (every six months), and my annual physical/cancer screenings. Also the dentist, but only if it was a problem that was debilitating and interfered with my ability to go to work and function normally. (Everyone else got regular dental checkups!) But last year, I made a stand. I made a hair appointment, and covered my gray hair. Now, I have a hair appointment every 3 months! It's my way of caring for my dignity. But the tendency to put yourself last on your list is a common one; so many women do it. Before 40, and after. Tanya,
I too know the syndrome well. You did better than me…I didn't bother to make appointments for myself except the critical ones…the ones I needed to have to be able to go on for others – my bipolar medication appointment (every six months), and my annual physical/cancer screenings. Also the dentist, but only if it was a problem that was debilitating and interfered with my ability to go to work and function normally. (Everyone else got regular dental checkups!) But last year, I made a stand. I made a hair appointment, and covered my gray hair. Now, I have a hair appointment every 3 months! It's my way of caring for my dignity. But the tendency to put yourself last on your list is a common one; so many women do it. Before 40, and after.

]]> By: AliciaAlston http://womenatforty.com/2009/12/making-time-for-everyones-life-but-her-own/comment-page-1/#comment-212 AliciaAlston Tue, 08 Dec 2009 12:28:54 +0000 http://womenatforty.com/?p=724#comment-212 Tanya - thanks for diagnosing my problem! I was wondering the same thing about myself bc I suffer from the same symptoms - right down to the Franklin Planner! Since oct I've started to reclaim my time and bit by bit, a little bit of the me I put aside 17 years ago when I birthed my first angel (of four) -- and coincidentally, the next Barack Obama or Paul Robeson, but I digress. I thought I had ADHD, but clearly, it's a case of CRS, combined with acute PMoBB (Put Mom on the Back Burner). I haven't tried lattes, but a one hour solo visit to the local coffee shop, dessert, and bi-weekly date night (when I don't forget), are slowly becoming the cure that I need. Thank you for validating my experiences - while making me laugh! Love you, fellow Douglass Deb ;-) keep up the great work! Tanya – thanks for diagnosing my problem! I was wondering the same thing about myself bc I suffer from the same symptoms – right down to the Franklin Planner! Since oct I've started to reclaim my time and bit by bit, a little bit of the me I put aside 17 years ago when I birthed my first angel (of four) — and coincidentally, the next Barack Obama or Paul Robeson, but I digress. I thought I had ADHD, but clearly, it's a case of CRS, combined with acute PMoBB (Put Mom on the Back Burner). I haven't tried lattes, but a one hour solo visit to the local coffee shop, dessert, and bi-weekly date night (when I don't forget), are slowly becoming the cure that I need. Thank you for validating my experiences – while making me laugh! Love you, fellow Douglass Deb ;-) keep up the great work!

]]> By: kananipod http://womenatforty.com/2009/12/making-time-for-everyones-life-but-her-own/comment-page-1/#comment-211 kananipod Tue, 08 Dec 2009 03:11:46 +0000 http://womenatforty.com/?p=724#comment-211 Tanya, your post made me lol!! I totally identify with the list thing, everyone's on there but you. I have to write down "go to bed at 11", "go for a run" or "vitamins!" to remember to take care of myself. We forget about taking care of ourselves and think it's intuitive and natural that you'll remember what you need to do for yourself, but (rolls eyes) hahahahaha...right. And I don't even have kids! BTW, I definitely think better with a latte and lemon loaf too...(mmmm...lemon loaf....) <br>;-) Tanya, your post made me lol!! I totally identify with the list thing, everyone's on there but you. I have to write down “go to bed at 11″, “go for a run” or “vitamins!” to remember to take care of myself. We forget about taking care of ourselves and think it's intuitive and natural that you'll remember what you need to do for yourself, but (rolls eyes) hahahahaha…right. And I don't even have kids! BTW, I definitely think better with a latte and lemon loaf too…(mmmm…lemon loaf….)
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]]> By: womenatforty http://womenatforty.com/2009/12/making-time-for-everyones-life-but-her-own/comment-page-1/#comment-210 womenatforty Tue, 08 Dec 2009 02:31:02 +0000 http://womenatforty.com/?p=724#comment-210 Great post Tanya. Talk about a light bulb moment. The fact that you were able to look back over the year and actually SEE that you'd excluded yourself was great. I think it's a good practice for all of us to take up. I like the idea of having a calendar/planner dedicated just to me. With the new year just around the corner, this would be a great time to get started. Great post Tanya. Talk about a light bulb moment. The fact that you were able to look back over the year and actually SEE that you'd excluded yourself was great. I think it's a good practice for all of us to take up. I like the idea of having a calendar/planner dedicated just to me. With the new year just around the corner, this would be a great time to get started.

]]> By: L. Michelle Odom http://womenatforty.com/2009/12/making-time-for-everyones-life-but-her-own/comment-page-1/#comment-209 L. Michelle Odom Tue, 08 Dec 2009 01:49:36 +0000 http://womenatforty.com/?p=724#comment-209 Hi Tanya,<br><br>I know the syndorme well. Glad to hear you cured yourself. In my life, it's been interesting to watch how angry some people get with me when I put my own needs first. Since I wasn't used to putting myself first, this took a bit of an adjustment...but I've done it. I've also gotten clear about the fact that until we put our needs first, no one else will. Congrats! Hi Tanya,

I know the syndorme well. Glad to hear you cured yourself. In my life, it's been interesting to watch how angry some people get with me when I put my own needs first. Since I wasn't used to putting myself first, this took a bit of an adjustment…but I've done it. I've also gotten clear about the fact that until we put our needs first, no one else will. Congrats!

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