Comments on: ‘Tis Better to Have Loved and Lost http://womenatforty.com/2009/12/tis-better-to-have-loved-and-lost/ Life. Love. Reality. In our fortieth year. Sun, 29 Jan 2012 02:14:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Women at Forty’s year end wrap up | Women at Forty http://womenatforty.com/2009/12/tis-better-to-have-loved-and-lost/comment-page-1/#comment-250 Women at Forty’s year end wrap up | Women at Forty Thu, 24 Dec 2009 16:34:31 +0000 http://womenatforty.com/?p=797#comment-250 [...] …At some point in the middle of depositions and hearings, I realized that I hadn’t failed myself or my soon-to-be ex-husband. I realized that I hadn’t even been in the marriage. The part of Rachel in the marriage had been played by a hollow version of me who was afraid to speak her mind, show her talents or simply be herself—my desolate, depressed and disillusioned doppelganger. Read the rest here… [...] [...] …At some point in the middle of depositions and hearings, I realized that I hadn’t failed myself or my soon-to-be ex-husband. I realized that I hadn’t even been in the marriage. The part of Rachel in the marriage had been played by a hollow version of me who was afraid to speak her mind, show her talents or simply be herself—my desolate, depressed and disillusioned doppelganger. Read the rest here… [...]

]]> By: Tricia Amiel http://womenatforty.com/2009/12/tis-better-to-have-loved-and-lost/comment-page-1/#comment-243 Tricia Amiel Tue, 22 Dec 2009 21:28:03 +0000 http://womenatforty.com/?p=797#comment-243 Rachel, I had that doppleganger too, so I know there can be no regrets...I'm glad that you, like me, used that negative experience to discover those important things about yourself. Your parents are a lovely example of what should happen, but doesn't in most cases, including mine...thank you for sharing. Rachel, I had that doppleganger too, so I know there can be no regrets…I'm glad that you, like me, used that negative experience to discover those important things about yourself. Your parents are a lovely example of what should happen, but doesn't in most cases, including mine…thank you for sharing.

]]> By: Grace http://womenatforty.com/2009/12/tis-better-to-have-loved-and-lost/comment-page-1/#comment-242 Grace Tue, 22 Dec 2009 02:50:01 +0000 http://womenatforty.com/?p=797#comment-242 Rachel,<br><br>Really insightful post (as usual) especially - "She had gotten married at a time in her life when she didn’t really know herself, let alone what she wanted, needed and deserved in a husband. The marriage was destined to fail." It's tough I think, to be so brutally honest and take ownership of the choices and decisions we've made, especially when it comes to relationships and love. But, until and unless we do, we're destined to repeat the same mistakes. <br><br>Another thing I totally agree with you on is not knowing myself or what I really wanted in my 20's especially, but even into my early 30's. I thank God everyday for NOT answering all of my prayers in the affirmative, especially when it came to some of my relationships. Rachel,

Really insightful post (as usual) especially – “She had gotten married at a time in her life when she didn’t really know herself, let alone what she wanted, needed and deserved in a husband. The marriage was destined to fail.” It's tough I think, to be so brutally honest and take ownership of the choices and decisions we've made, especially when it comes to relationships and love. But, until and unless we do, we're destined to repeat the same mistakes.

Another thing I totally agree with you on is not knowing myself or what I really wanted in my 20's especially, but even into my early 30's. I thank God everyday for NOT answering all of my prayers in the affirmative, especially when it came to some of my relationships.

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