Comments on: The Power of “No” and the sucker’s choice http://womenatforty.com/2010/01/the-power-of-no-and-the-suckers-choice/ Life. Love. Reality. In our fortieth year. Sun, 29 Jan 2012 02:14:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: womenatforty http://womenatforty.com/2010/01/the-power-of-no-and-the-suckers-choice/comment-page-1/#comment-305 womenatforty Sat, 23 Jan 2010 21:10:35 +0000 http://womenatforty.com/?p=962#comment-305 Hi Polly,<br><br>Yeah, that always puzzles me too - people who can't take no for an answer, or get very upset when you say no. Why'd you frame your request in the form of a question if I didn't have a choice? Good for you for having the art of no down! Thanks for commenting. Hi Polly,

Yeah, that always puzzles me too – people who can't take no for an answer, or get very upset when you say no. Why'd you frame your request in the form of a question if I didn't have a choice? Good for you for having the art of no down! Thanks for commenting.

]]> By: Polly Poorhouse http://womenatforty.com/2010/01/the-power-of-no-and-the-suckers-choice/comment-page-1/#comment-304 Polly Poorhouse Sat, 23 Jan 2010 10:38:23 +0000 http://womenatforty.com/?p=962#comment-304 At almost 50, I like to feel like I have got the art of saying "no" down to a science. Unfortunately, I still know lots of people who are patently unable to take "no" for an answer. After the fourth "no" I'm starting to delete their emails. At almost 50, I like to feel like I have got the art of saying “no” down to a science. Unfortunately, I still know lots of people who are patently unable to take “no” for an answer. After the fourth “no” I'm starting to delete their emails.

]]> By: Margaret http://womenatforty.com/2010/01/the-power-of-no-and-the-suckers-choice/comment-page-1/#comment-296 Margaret Tue, 19 Jan 2010 00:11:37 +0000 http://womenatforty.com/?p=962#comment-296 Great article! I used to have a very hard time saying No. Over the last year or so, I've taken to declining requests with a simple, "I'm sorry, I have a prior commitment." Whether there's something on my calendar or not, if I don't want to do something for *whatever* reason, I simply have a prior commitment. A commitment to myself--to not over-commit myself! Great article! I used to have a very hard time saying No. Over the last year or so, I've taken to declining requests with a simple, “I'm sorry, I have a prior commitment.” Whether there's something on my calendar or not, if I don't want to do something for *whatever* reason, I simply have a prior commitment. A commitment to myself–to not over-commit myself!

]]> By: Kalin http://womenatforty.com/2010/01/the-power-of-no-and-the-suckers-choice/comment-page-1/#comment-294 Kalin Mon, 18 Jan 2010 22:12:18 +0000 http://womenatforty.com/?p=962#comment-294 I've been a people pleaser most of my life. But when I turned 40, it was like a mental shift. I decided I needed to start doing what was best for me. I've learned to say "no" a lot more often -- though I still haven moments of weakness. But in the end, if I say "yes" when I wanted to say "no", I just become angry with myself for overcommitting my time. So while it may be difficult to say "no" upfront, in the end it's worth not having the anger and resentment --even if it's just with yourself. I've been a people pleaser most of my life. But when I turned 40, it was like a mental shift. I decided I needed to start doing what was best for me. I've learned to say “no” a lot more often — though I still haven moments of weakness. But in the end, if I say “yes” when I wanted to say “no”, I just become angry with myself for overcommitting my time. So while it may be difficult to say “no” upfront, in the end it's worth not having the anger and resentment –even if it's just with yourself.

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