So, what’s sexy?
Remember the high top fade and its edgier cousin the gumby? Well, if you were fans of Kid ‘n Play and Bobby Brown, pre- “Bobbaaaay?!!” then you know exactly what we’re talking about. They were the haircuts sported by some young men back in the 80’s and 90’s, and they were sexy. At least we thought so.
How times have changed and thankfully so have our tastes. What we found sexy at 16, 21 and even 30, probably isn’t what we find sexy at 40. So we asked, what do you find sexy in a man? Just so you know, that hip area, just below the six pack abs and right above the ehem…(modeled perfectly here by The Backup Plan’s Alex O’Loughlin) is what we find sexy. Here’s some of what you had to say…
“Definitely a good sense of humor. And a guy who can spell and has good grammar…as odd as that sounds.”
“A man who behaves as an adult and takes responsibility for himself, his actions and his loved ones.”
“A man who is in touch with his emotions and is not afraid to share them with the woman in his life.”
”A man in the kitchen cooking—doesn’t matter what he is cooking, but there is something sooo sexy about him cooking for me!”
“A man that can sing”
“A man that listens”
“A man has got to have a good voice. And that whole thing when they talk in your ear, or whisper, or um, make um certain noises during the deed, um…”
“Sexy for me…the way he towel dries after a shower and the fit of boxer briefs…”
“Wash dishes, fold laundry, gives you a hug when you are down and you don’t have to say a word!!!”
“Confidence is sexy. doesn’t matter how old or young, handsome or not, if he’s confident within himself, he is sexy. I love a man who knows his own mind and what he’s about. Oh yeah, I also love a man in the kitchen…..a guy who cooks is sooooooooooo sexy.”
It’s interesting how many responses didn’t have anything to do with men’s physical attributes. Were our women being reserved, or are these qualities sexier than the physical? And, I wonder if we asked men the same question, whether the responses would be similar. Got something sexy to add? Share it in the comment section or on our Facebook fan page.
Image: Alex O’ Loughlin from the upcoming movie “The Backup Plan”






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