WAF’s Five for Friday – The “Women Bloggers Rock” Edition

Five fab women bloggers we think know you’ll love…

big hair day 1. If you’re a member of the curly girl club (or your daughter is), then you’ll love Curly Niki’s natural hair site. In Niki’s words, her site was created “to inspire, educate and motivate people that wear their hair naturally–be it curly hair, kinky hair, or wavy hair.” Curly Niki provides techniques, product reviews and a vibrant online community of natural hairistas.

2. Ms. Single MamaMs. Single Mama’s got a few years to go before turning 40, but Alaina writes with humor and insight about  life after ending her marriage (with her four month old son in tow,) starting her business and raising her now four year old son. She’s also no longer single.

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Nearing the Shore

00443711 Editor’s Note: When I came up with the idea for The Women at Forty Project, I knew I wasn’t the only woman approaching 40 with a sense that this year in my life could be the beginning of something great and life altering on my horizon. I was right. And since its launch, I’ve been honored by dozens of honest, heartfelt submissions I’ve received from women at or near forty from all over the country.

Tricia Amiel was one of the site’s first contributors. She’s written with raw honesty about her emotions on heading towards 40 too fast and about undergoing a hysterectomy at 39. Her submissions reinforce what I know to be true – 40 can be the year of coming to deep, meaningful realizations about ourselves and stepping into the women we were meant to be. Today I’m sharing part one of another one of Tricia’s personal, beautifully written posts she’s titled, Nearing the Shore.

Women like Tricia, and stories like ‘Nearing the Shore’ are the reason behind The Women at Forty Project.

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Esther’s Top Five Tips to Begin Having a Happy Childhood NOW

Editor’s Note: Yesterday we shared Esther’s thoughts on the vulnerable little girl inside all of us. Today Esther offers five tips on how you can begin having a happy childhood now…

j0430903 I’m of the belief that if you came from a very dysfunctional family, survived, and then turned your life into something wonderful as an adult, you are quite a remarkable person and a very valuable role model to younger women. Some of the greatest geniuses and valuable contributors to society didn’t exactly have ‘perfect’ childhoods- often, it was quite the opposite.

I also believe that old adage, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”. Our challenges can be turned into triumphs and lead us on to do amazing things in life. In fact, many of our strongest beliefs and values come from what we DID OR DIDN’T EXPERIENCE growing up. For example, someone I knew was abused by a family member as a child, and grew up with an unshakable conviction that every child has a right to be safe and protected from harm. As an adult, she educates parents and caregivers of children about preventing and stopping child abuse. She is one of the top experts in her field. Her passion for her work came from her unfortunate experiences in childhood.

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Esther Kane On: The vulnerable little girl inside

j0426501 Editor’s Note: We’re digging through some baggage this week – specifically the emotional baggage some of us have been carrying around for almost 40 years. Today we’re sharing part I of an article from Esther Kane that addresses the vulnerable little girl that’s inside all of us. Esther, author of Dump That Chump, What your Mama Can’t or Won’t Teach You and the book I’m currently reading, It’s Not About The Food, believes that not being tuned in to that little girl can lead to self-destructive behavior – the kind that looks a lot like emotional baggage…

I thought it might be nice to celebrate our “inner child” in this article. I’m guessing that most of you know what I’m talking about when I say “inner child”, but for clarity’s sake, I’ll share with you what I mean by that term…

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The Grown Girls Baggage Club

I’m a platinum-card-carrying member of the Grown Girls Baggage Club – and I’m not proud of it.  In fact, I don’t know too many people who aren’t – members of the club that is. The baggage I’m referring to is emotional baggage, and it’s defined as the “emotional turmoil caused by some issue in someone’s past.” It’s the stuff that’s strewn along our life’s path and the thing we perform mind bending acrobatics to avoid confronting. It weighs us down and prevents us from being the women we’ve always known we could be.

Emotional baggage can manifest itself in compulsive overeating, alcoholism and drug abuse, but it’s usually much more subtle. If you’re a woman who hears the word “no” and turns it into “no, you’re not pretty enough, no, you’re not smart enough, or no, you’re not valuable enough,” then you might be a member of the club. Continue reading The Grown Girls Baggage Club