Louis CK explains cell phones and sadness as only he can

Louis CKLouis CK is a 46 year old, sometimes self-depracating, often foul-mouthed comedian that I inexplicably (or maybe not so inexplicably) have a thing for. Much like my thing with Idris Elba, CK is none the wiser for it, but it makes our bond no less real to me (don’t judge me.) (Photo: Louis CK)

The clip below is from a recent visit to Conan and starts off as a rant about why kids shouldn’t have cell phones. But then it turns into something much deeper. And while I don’t agree with him that “it’s all for nothing and you’re all alone,” I know the sadness he’s talking about.

It’s a feeling of being so overwhelmed that there’s nothing to do but just feel it and let it flow.

It’s those moments when you’re alone, but you don’t want to be, or those times when, like with recent events in Colorado and Kenya, you’re faced with the sometimes cruel brevity of life.

But if your go to move has become flipping through your phone rather than really feeling something, anything, then maybe it is time to step back from the phone. And if you’re a part of the generation that has grown up and not experienced riding in a car without DVD players, satellite radios, tablets, and cell phones, then getting in touch with that place isn’t something you know. I aged out of that demographic twenty years ago, but I have, and do, use my phone as a crutch sometimes – even though it is probably the the dumbest “smart” phone ever made.

So, although I don’t usually take advice from comedians, Louis CK is the exception. From now on when I get the urge to use my phone as a shield, I will leave it in my bag, or even back at my house, for as long as I can. I’ll feel those uncomfortable moments, I’ll be the person sitting by herself and not looking into her lap and I might even talk to a stranger.

Age Aint Nothing But a Number

Diana NyadIronic title for a site created for women in their 40s, I know. And though age is just a number, it’s an important number when it comes to observing milestones, celebrating birthdays, and remembering how far you’ve come.

When does age threaten to be more, and less at the same time? When we use it as a gauge to judge ourselves. We all do it, women at 40 don’t have a moratorium on beating ourselves up about not being at a certain place in life by the time we hit our 40s. But for some of us, the day we turn 40 hits us with the force of that gong they used on The Gong Show, and we often,  and not always consciously, take ourselves out of the running because now we’re just too damn old to [fill in the blank].

I got two words for you. Diana Nyad.

While some have always questioned why (dude, that’s 110 miles!), and others are now questioning how, the fact remains that this world record long distance swimmer, in her fifth attempt, successfully swam from Florida to Cuba. And she’s 64.

Not all of us will break world records when we attempt for the fifth or hundredth time to finish something important to us. Most of us won’t make the news for doing it. But, as long as we’re drawing breath, the possibility still exists that we can and will get ‘er done – whether it’s our fifth attempt or hundredth.

So whatever it is you’ve set your heart to doing, and whether you set it 20 years ago or 20 hours a go, don’t let your age be the thing that stops you.

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