From juggling the ticking of biological clocks while waiting for “the one,” ala Jennifer Lopez’ The Back-up Plan, to dating and marriage in the age of social media, to shunning or embracing cougar status, for women at 40 the relationship world looks a lot different now than it did in our 20’s and 30’s.
Let’s see, there’s Twitter and Facebook, E-harmony, Match.com and yes folks even… onlinebootycall.com. There’s freezing eggs, frozen sperm and surrogate mothers. In the media there’s Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher and on TV there’s Cougar Town and Accidentally on Purpose. And in the news, there’s a constant stream of stories about infidelity. Many of us were heartbroken when we learned that Jesse James was unfaithful to Sandra Bullock, who just weeks prior had beemed publicly that her husband “had her back.” We even took it a little personally since Sandra waited until she was 40 to get married.
It seems everywhere we turn we’re inundated with images, stories and advice about marriage, single men and women and dating – some good, some bad, and some, just plain old ugly. So what’s a woman at forty to do? This week we’re exploring relationships 2.0 – relationships in the age of social media, cougar culture and changing mores. And we’re asking some serious – and not so serious – questions, like:
- Do you have a “back-up plan?” What do you think of the whole idea? If you’ve got one, what is it and did you ever think you’d need one?
- What makes a relationship work at 40 and is it different than when you were in your 20’s or 30’s?
- Are “good men” as hard to find as the media portrays, or are we just being too picky?
- Should we be offended by the word “cougar” or should we embrace it?
- Have you ever asked a guy out? Why or why not?
I’ve assembled a virtual panel – panel 2.0 I call it, of 40 year old friends and acquaintances and asked them these questions and more. Some of the answers might surprise you. We’re even talking to an “official un-cougar” this week – a woman who’s married to a younger man, but who refuses to be defined by the age of the man in her life. So, is all the media talk about dating, infidelity, cougars and relationships just hype or is it reality? This week, with your help, we’ll try to find out.
Share your answers to our relationship 2.0 questions in the comment section, on our Facebook fan page or email them to firstname.lastname@example.org. We’ll keep your responses anonymous, so don’t be afraid to tell us what you’re really thinking.