Over the last few weeks I’ve been presented with a few opportunities that seem to be answers to prayers. But as is often the case with me, opportunity never comes alone. I often invite a heaping dose of fear along for the ride, playing the “What if I can’t do it…What if I’m not good enough…What if it doesn’t work?” script over and over in my head. Although I’ve made strides in the area of fear conquering, this is one area of my life where turning 40 didn’t magically give me super-human, fear busting enlightenment.
Every now and then we need a reminder that there are things much more important than our fears. Here’s a portion of a post I ran several months ago that helped remind me of just that…
What are you afraid of? We’re not talking mice, snakes and things that go bump in the night here. Frankly, a healthy fear of rodents has its benefits. No, we’re talking about the big stuff that manifests itself in our every day lives when we settle for less, do less and postpone our dreams.
It’s the event we don’t attend because we don’t have anything to wear, the relationship we won’t commit to because we’re not ready to settle down, and it’s the business we put off starting because we’re too busy. But if we peel back the layers, and are really honest with ourselves, underneath these common excuses lie fears – big fears. Fears that bind us: rejection, failure, success, commitment, fill-in-the-blank. These big fears can paralyze us, leaving us living a “less than” life.
The first step in tackling our fears is naming them. You might find that behind the “I have nothing to wear” speech you’ve perfected is the fear of rejection. And the “I’m too busy” mantra might be the cover that hides your fear of failure or success.
I’m determined not to live out my 40th year afraid of the very things that could deliver a “life less ordinary.” From the one you’re about to let get away, to the college education you’ve always wanted but have almost convinced yourself it’s too late to get, there are many things much more important than your fear. What do you fear and what are you going to do about it?
When it comes to confronting our fears, sometimes there’s nothing to it but to do it. Register for the class, write that book, ask the question you’ve been dying to ask. Decide today- and every day – that you’re stronger than your fears, and then go out and do something about it.