Last week, women at 40 chimed in on beauty, embracing their imperfections, cosmetic surgery and cougars. Margaret wrote about rocking her little black dress with perfect posture, despite having a scar that runs from the back of her neck to the back of her waist. Lucinda admitted that while she doesn’t quite lover her imperfections, she’s gotten to an age where she just doesn’t care that much about them anymore. And Bea pointed out that some things that are considered “imperfections” in our culture are signs of beauty in others.
When it comes to going under the knife, according to our latest poll, 40% of you say that you’ll never do it. But most of you fell somewhere in between wanting a little lipo and a tummy tuck, to asking us to check in with you in a few more years. Some women even said that they’d already had work done. Fillers, botox and minor “body work” seemed to be ok for many. But most drew the line at face lifts or the types of extreme surgical procedures we’ve seen in the media of late.
Continue reading Beautiful imperfections, a little help from botox, and cougar conversations…
The results are coming in on our latest poll, “Would you ever consider having plastic surgery?” and while “I’m never having any work done” has a slight lead, many of you are saying that there’s nothing wrong with a little botox or tummy tuck. We’ve added a new video to the sidebar – a discussion that addresses the “cosmetic surgery craze” which includes a panel discussion on the pros and cons of plastic surgery.
Over on Facebook a lively discussion started on dying gray hair, growing old gracefully and good genes. On the site a few of you even commented that you’d already had some work done – and saw no problem with that. Here’s a little of what you had to say on dying gray hair, aging gracefully and cosmetic surgery…
Continue reading Sounding off: Going under the knife, aging gracefully and gray hairs
Years ago I had orthodontic braces. I wore that metal contraption – rubber bands and all – throughout the last couple years of high school, followed by a year of grueling night-time retainer wearing. If you’ve seen me anytime post circa 1990 then you’re probably wondering if I got a refund. Because today there’s a gap, front and center where my two front teeth used to meet. A big one.
At one point, a lifetime ago now it seems, I thought about re-closing it and my grandmother said simply, “Why close it? If it came back, that means it’s meant to be there. It makes you different.” She said it so confidently and with such assurance (as though she’d heard it from God himself) that I knew immediately she was right. And that validation from her was all I needed to never question the existence of my gap again. Even when some adults have asked if I’ve ever thought about getting it “fixed”. And even when children (ok, one child) have pointed to their missing front teeth and asked me if the tooth fairy left me money too. Even then I’ve never once considered changing my gap-toothed smile. More important than the fact that I’ve gotten more compliments over the years than comments, is the fact that I genuinely like my smile.
If only we could pull sweet grandmother wisdom out of our pockets whenever we had doubts about our perceived imperfections. We’d spend a lot less time being unhappy and a lot more time focusing on the things that really matter. What others thought about our imperfections would be meaningless, because what we knew to be true about ourselves would be shaped by someone who’d heard it directly from God himself. Wouldn’t that be a great way to start thinking about ourselves – all of it, cellulite, wrinkles and all?
So what’s your “imperfection”, and how did you learn to love it? Have you learned to love it? Share your thoughts in the comment section, or on our Facebook fan page. And, don’t forget to take this week’s poll – Would you ever consider plastic surgery?
Image: Lauren Hutton’s gap-tooth smile
We’ve said all along that contrary to what popular media would have us believe, at 40, women are about much more than just the age of the men they’re dating and how many more wrinkles they have today than they did yesterday. On the site, we’ve delved into motherhood, dating – what’s sexy and what’s not, and health – taking on fitness challenges and pursuing better health. We’re defining our goals, tackling our fears and taking the 5 questions, 3 words or less challenge. But cougars and crow’s feet are an important part of the conversation, and over the next few posts we’ll be exploring these subjects as they relate to our image obsessed culture.
Last week we were all a bit at a loss for words when a reader who called herself “Too ashamed to use her real name” wrote in about the hurt and pain she felt at never having been in a real relationship. Several things she said struck a chord with us, but these words in particular are relevant to the topic of beauty and aging in our society… Continue reading From the Editor: Cougars and crow’s feet
Editor’s Note: On Tuesday, Kim gave The Striking Skin Care line of products a thumbs up, today Rachel gives us her take and sheds some light on what the line did for her skin. Continue reading Women at Forty Reviews “Striking Skin Care” – Part 2