Relationships 2.0 Wrap up – Women at Forty on passion, men and marriage

j0443703 So, after a week of asking women at forty a host of relationship based questions, here’s what we’ve come away with…

We asked about passion, and you said –  Passion is still alive…even if it doesn’t pop up every day. And you haven’t given up on finding and keeping passion alive in your relationships, it just takes a little more work at 40. There are careers, kids and bills to think about, and sometimes passion takes a back seat. Single women at 40 said chemistry and passion are still really important when dating and starting relationships, but unlike in our 20’s, it’s not the only important factor.

We asked about back-up plans, and you said – Whether it comes to having kids or your marriage, there is no back-up plan. Unlike Jennifer Lopez’ upcoming movie, those of you who are 40 and don’t have kids, seem to be ok with it. Continue reading Relationships 2.0 Wrap up – Women at Forty on passion, men and marriage

The pursuit of passion: Have we given up?

j0399847 Yesterday we kicked off our Relationships 2.0 series with questions about a host of relationship related issues like dating younger men, the elusive hunt for the alleged “good” men and the ways we go about forming relationships differ in our 40’s than in our 20’s and 30’s. We’ve already gotten some great feedback which we’ll be sharing over the next several days, but today’s conversation is about passion and how our pursuit of passion changes as we get older. has several definitions for the word passion including:

  • any powerful or compelling emotion or feeling, as love or hate.
  • strong amorous feeling or desire; love; ardor.
  • strong sexual desire; lust.
  • an instance or experience of strong love or sexual desire.

So today’s question – well one of them anyway – is, as we get older, do we trade the kind of passion defined above for something else, and if so, what’s the trade-off? Continue reading The pursuit of passion: Have we given up?

What’s your passion?

passion at fortySo you’re forty, or at least quickly heading in that direction. What are you passionate about? Is it different now than when you were thirty?

For me the answer to the latter is a resounding yes! At thirty, I was just getting out of that phase of being all about trying (unsuccessfully) to see and be seen.  In the middle of all that, I found time to hope for a good job, a nice boyfriend and a comfy home.  Can you be passionate about being comfortable? Passionately comfortable? Well I was. Continue reading What’s your passion?