Sounding off: Going under the knife, aging gracefully and gray hairs

plastic surgery procedures The results are coming in on our latest poll, “Would you ever consider having plastic surgery?” and while “I’m never having any work done” has a slight lead, many of you are saying that there’s nothing wrong with a little botox or tummy tuck. We’ve added a new video to the sidebar – a discussion that addresses the “cosmetic surgery craze” which includes a panel discussion on the pros and cons of plastic surgery.

Over on Facebook a lively discussion started on dying gray hair, growing old gracefully and good genes.  On the site a few of you even commented that you’d already had some work done – and saw no problem with that. Here’s a little of what you had to say on dying gray hair, aging gracefully and cosmetic surgery…

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From the Editor: Cougars and crow’s feet

dv1768028 We’ve said all along that contrary to what popular media would have us believe, at 40, women are about much more than just the age of the men they’re dating and how many more wrinkles they have today than they did yesterday. On the site, we’ve delved into motherhood, dating – what’s sexy and what’s not, and health – taking on fitness challenges and pursuing better health. We’re defining our goals, tackling our fears and taking the 5 questions, 3 words or less challenge.  But cougars and crow’s feet are an important part of the conversation, and over the next few posts we’ll be exploring these subjects as they relate to our image obsessed culture.

Last week we were all a bit at a loss for words when a reader who called herself “Too ashamed to use her real name” wrote in about the hurt and pain she felt at never having been in a real relationship. Several things she said struck a chord with us, but these words in particular are relevant to the topic of beauty and aging in our society… Continue reading From the Editor: Cougars and crow’s feet

Mutton dressed like lamb

thong show For those who aren’t in the know, the term “Mutton dressed like lamb” refers to an older woman, dressed (typically inappropriately,) in a style more suitable for a much younger woman. In the picture on the left, while that style isn’t suitable for anyone at any age, it certainly shouldn’t be donned by someone who’s forty years old. For the record, that’s 43 year old Pamela Anderson’s butt we’re looking at (or away from.) And while she’s notorious for dressing – and undressing – inappropriately, the point is that at forty, we shouldn’t be dressing like 20 year olds. More importantly, we shouldn’t want to be dressing or looking like 20 year olds. So why do so many of us want to?

Between the frightening face lifts (Joan Rivers), over zealous lip enhancements (Lisa Rinna) and immovably Botoxed cheeks (Nicole Kidman), some women are falling all over themselves to look as though they haven’t aged. Among the forty crowd, hemlines keep rising and necklines keep plunging.  Even the men are obsessed with looking younger (Kenny Rogers, Micky Rourke) and it’s just as sad, maybe even sadder, when they do it.

The problem with trying so hard to look as though you haven’t aged is that you end up, in a sense, proving that you haven’t aged. And by not aging I mean, not developing a level of wisdom that says the size of my lips is not as important as my character, not having a strong sense of self-worth outside of your appearance, and not coming to the understanding that what people think of you is far less important than how you feel about yourself. And I’m certainly not saying that every woman who has some kind of work done on her face is lacking wisdom and self worth, but I am suggesting that when some of us go to the lengths that we’re going to to look so much younger, we’ve got to ask ourselves who we’re doing it for.

Many women will argue that Botox and facelifts do help them feel better about themselves, but if that’s the case, why do so many keep going back for more surgery, more injections, more Botox? Look, if at some point in the future my face starts sliding off my skull, I might choose to get some work done – I’ll never say never. But corrective surgery is very different from trying to stop the hands of time. I wonder if the women who’ve lived to be 100 in our society spent as much time worrying about their physical appearance as we do today? I’m thinking probably not.