Women at Forty’s year end wrap up

It’s been a great four months for Women at Forty! Since we launched  we’ve been blessed with contributions and comments from women all over the world. As we prepare for 2010, we’d like to take a look back at what you’ve contributed and commented on since we got started. Next week we’ll share a few more of our favorites and start the usual New Year’s resolution talk, but this time with a few twists, and hopefully better outcomes. But until then, Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Happy Kwanzaa and Happy Holidays to all! And a special thank you to Rachel, Tanya, Tricia and Jen (aloha!) for your frequent article posts!

The Project

j0432847 On September 2nd, we introduced the Women at Forty Project to the world. This site is only phase I of a project whose goal it is to redefine the way we look at women at forty. There are dozens of magazines and blogs dedicated to telling women how to live better, be better, look better, at forty and beyond.  The Women at Forty Project isn’t about telling you what forty should look or feel like, it’s about you telling us what it really is like.

Whoever you are, wherever you are, if you’re forty, soon to be forty, or have wisdom to share about that year of your life, we want to hear your story.  To find out how you can contribute your stories, visit our Contribute page here.

Are you hiding your age?

Although it’s hard to hide your age if you’re contributing to this site, we asked women the question, are  you hiding your age? Here are some of the responses we got…

Tricia

I have a strange (maybe)relationship with the appearance of my age; according to manyj0430507 people, I look much younger than 39. I ardently disagree, because I know what I looked like before, and this is NOT it…I’ve let go of all that now, though I still don’t enjoy being underaged, which often translates to being undervalued, underappreciated. I love being my age, and look forward to being older…I want people to give up their own notions about what forty looks like…cuz this IS what it looks like. I’m 39, running toward 40 at top freakin’ speed!

Kalin

I never lie about my age. And when I turned 40 I was so happy to be “40 and Fabulous” that I told everybody! I understand why women lie about their age, but I have more respect for those who don’t.

Tanya

My MOTHER still lies about her age and now she’s trying to get me to lie about mine! I refuse and it totally pisses her off. As of today (I’m 40), she had to “upgrade” her age. My oldest daughter said to her grandmother, “You had mommy at 11?” The young bride story didn’t fly that high! She admitted to being 58!

Bittersweet Milestonelaurie

In October, we honored Breast Cancer Awareness Month with a pink ribbon logo and special posts from  and about breast cancer survivors. I first read Laurie’s story on Blogher after she’d responded to The Women at Forty’s Five Questions challenge. I immediately visited her blog, Not Just About Cancer where she talks candidly about “What happens when you are 38 years old, write for a living and are diagnosed with aggressive breast cancer.” Laurie’s graciously agreed to share one of her posts with Women at Forty. It was written on August 3, 2007, an hour before she turned forty. Read her inspiring story here.

Rachel Dachel is a freelance writer and editor, and creator and author of the blog Rachel-y Motivated Incidents. She’s a friend and frequent contributor to Women at Forty. She’s contributed several awesome posts so it’s hard to narrow it down, but here are a couple of our favorite “rlw bnwDachelettes” as we like to call them…

Rachel on Motherhood, or not…

I’m nearing forty and I am unmarried and without children. It seems that almost daily I read about a 50+ aged woman who is pregnant or recently gave birth or I see toddlers with parents who look old enough to be their grandparents—which means the parents have to be at least 70 because with Botox, Restalyne and plastic surgery being so popular, only homeless people and hippies look their age anymore, right? Read the rest here

Rachel on love, marriage and divorce…

…At some point in the middle of depositions and hearings, I realized that I hadn’t failed myself or my soon-to-be ex-husband. I realized that I hadn’t even been in the marriage. The part of Rachel in the marriage had been played by a hollow version of me who was afraid to speak her mind, show her talents or simply be herself—my desolate, depressed and disillusioned doppelganger. Read the rest here

Special nod to Rachel’s post, E-harmony vs. Old School, especially the part about wanting a man with a neck. Read it, you’ll understand.

Our Five Questions Challenge

This has been, by far, our most commented on post. We set out to ask 100 women at forty, fivej0433165 questions. The catch, you had to answer each question in three words or less. Here are you five questions…

  1. Most exciting thing you did/plan to do at forty?
  2. Biggest regret?
  3. The thing(s) you’re most proud of?
  4. The monkey on your back you can’t shake?
  5. Finish this sentence (ok, so technically it’s not a question) – If Three 6 Mafia can win an Oscar, I can…

And here’s what you said…

1. Most exciting thing you plan to do at forty? Embrace life.
2. Biggest regret? Wasting my 30s.
3. The thing(s) you’re most proud of? My mom’s strength.
4. The monkey on your back you can’t shake? Caring too much.
5. Finish this sentence (ok, so technically it’s not a question) – If Three 6 Mafia can win an Oscar, I can…believe in myself.

Chelle

1 Most exciting thing you did/plan to do at forty? Move.
2 Biggest regret? Agreeing to Florida
3 The thing(s) you’re most proud of? Changes in 2009.
4 The monkey on your back you can’t shake? People Pleasing
5 Finish this sentence (ok, so technically it’s not a question) – If Three 6 Mafia can win an Oscar, I can…Start a new career at 43!

bsuperbee

Just turned 40.
1. Most exciting thing you did/plan to do at forty? Have a quiet day to myself
2. Biggest regret? My naivety as a young woman
3. The thing(s) you’re most proud of? My children
4. The monkey on your back you can’t shake? It is not on my back but my butt 😉
5. Finish this sentence (ok, so technically it’s not a question) – If Three 6 Mafia can win an Oscar, I can…live my life without worrying about what other people think of me.

Tamika

1. Most exciting thing you did/plan to do at forty? buy a vacation home in another country
2. Biggest regret? not going to graduate school
3. The thing(s) you’re most proud of? my children and not giving up on my dreams
4. The monkey on your back you can’t shake? never feeling good enough
5. Finish this sentence (ok, so technically it’s not a question) – If Three 6 Mafia can win an Oscar, I can… win one too!

Teresa

Okay, I’ll play… Although I’m already 46 years old
1. Most exciting thing you did/plan to do at forty? Got a divorce
2. Biggest regret? 2 marriages!
3. The thing(s) you’re most proud of? New younger boyfriend
4. The monkey on your back you can’t shake? Those 2 divorces!
5. Finish this sentence (ok, so technically it’s not a question) – If Three 6 Mafia can win an Oscar, I can… be totally happy.

Read all your responses here

Next week we’ll revisit posts from Jennifer, Tanya and Tricia and take another look at our Three 6 Mafia challenge.

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