Everybody shouldn’t like you:10 things I’ve learned in 40 years

Lat week I was reading humor columnist and author Dave Barry’s classic list of 25 things he’s learned in 50 years. His list included things like: you should not confuse your career with your life, a person who is nice to you, but rude to the waiter, is not a nice person, and you will never find anybody who can give you a clear and compelling reason why we observe daylight-savings time.

Barry’s list inspired me to write my own…

I feel like I’ve truly learned something when the lesson stops repeating itself. I stop dating that guy. I don’t like the way I feel around certain people so I change the nature of those relationships and never experience those bad feelings again. I stop apologizing for doing/being who I am or am not. You get the point.

I encourage you to create your own list – you’ll be surprised to discover all the lessons you’ve learned, and the ones you haven’t. That list is next – the harder one, the one requiring complete honesty with myself when I admit that there are some lessons in life I still haven’t grasped, even in 40 years, and ask myself if I ever will.

But today, here’s to what I have learned…

  1. If you’re doing it right – living your life, being true to your beliefs, everybody shouldn’t like you. Some people won’t like you. That’s a good thing.
  2. Sometimes if you really don’t feel like doing something, don’t. Some call it gut, others intuition, but whatever it is, it’s dead on.
  3. Even if you’ve fought to hold onto something – an idea, a person, a relationship – sometimes it’s just time to let it go.
  4. The one thing you want the most in life will be the thing you have to work the hardest to get/feel/achieve – and you’ll have to work at it for the rest of your life.
  5. It is ok to forgive and remember. If you forget, what’s to stop it from happening again?
  6. Your yesses and your nos, verbal or otherwise, teach people how to treat you.
  7. When it comes to relationships don’t ignore the subtle signs you see at the beginning – that is who he/she is.
  8. There are worse things in life than being corny/geeky/nerdy – ask Bill Gates.
  9. The pressure to “fit in” never really goes away, what changes is your desire to.
  10. Money really can’t buy happiness, but not having it can significantly contribute to sadness.

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  • Kalin

    Love them all — but especially #7.

  • Anonymous

    Thanks Kalin!

  • Tricia

    Loving the last one…I say something similar all the time.

  • My favorite it accepting that not everyone is going to like you. Tired of trying to please everyone. They can stick it. lol