10 things it’s taken us 40 years to learn

Taking a page from columnist Dave Barry’s famous “Things it took me over 50 years to Learn” , a few of us at Women at Forty have decided to pen our own list of things it’s taken us 40 years to learn. Here are the first tenj0442209:

  1. To our parents, we will always be children. When you need a shoulder to cry on, that can be a good thing.
  2. Most people mean to do well, they really do, but sometimes life gets in the way and they forget about the living.
  3. Take your time arriving at a first impression of someone or something – you’ll never have the chance to do it again.
  4. Even when the grass really is greener on the other side, it doesn’t mean we’re not where we should be.
  5. We’re not as brave as we pretend to be, but we’re stronger than we think.
  6. Sometimes you can judge a book by its cover.
  7. What goes around, really, really, really, comes back around.
  8. Even at 40, you can still feel like a kid sometimes, and that’s ok.
  9. It’s also ok to grow up.
  10. There’s still so much we don’t know.

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You’ve come a long way baby: 20 things I’d tell you now

baby grace cropped 20 things you need to know – Hey you, standing over there looking tough and cute the way little girls often do, it’s me, well you – in about 36 years. Some things haven’t changed much. With the exception of the ribbon, your hair looked a lot like that this morning, and that stance, you still got that. You often have that same ‘four parts curiosity, one part ‘what the hell are you looking at”  look on your face even at this age – And the legs…well, like I said, some things haven’t changed much.

I wish I could protect you from, and prepare you for all that lies ahead, but I can’t. No one can really. But what I can do is share some things that only I’ll be able to. Some people think the past, present and future are all happening at once, so who knows. I know you won’t understand everything I’m saying, but take notes, you’ll need them.

  1. Some of the people in your life will disappoint you, lie to you, hurt you. Some of them are just stupid. Others are just evil. Forgive them all, stupid and evil alike, and move on. Remember what they did and learn from it. Don’t hold what they’ve done to you against anyone else.
  2. That thing you want to do with your hair in the eighties. Don’t. You leave dozens of grease spots up and down the east coast because of it, and Chris Rock will mock it mercilessly in a documentary he releases in 2009.
  3. Try to get that eating thing under control early – believe me, you’ll be fighting that battle for years. In the meantime, live your life and do the things you want to do, regardless of what the scale says.
  4. You’re going to have several really great ideas for businesses. Instead of talking yourself out of it, just do it. You are smarter, stronger and more resilient than you know.
  5. You know how they said it would be too difficult to be a successful, black, female journalist? Oprah’s like the richest person on the planet now. Seriously. Don’t listen to them. Continue reading You’ve come a long way baby: 20 things I’d tell you now