Beautiful imperfections, a little help from botox, and cougar conversations…

j0443862 Last week, women at 40 chimed in on beauty, embracing their imperfections, cosmetic surgery and cougars. Margaret wrote about rocking her little black dress with perfect posture, despite having a scar that runs from the back of her neck to the back of her waist. Lucinda admitted that while she doesn’t quite lover her imperfections, she’s gotten to an age where she just doesn’t care that much about them anymore. And Bea pointed out that some things that are considered “imperfections” in our culture are signs of beauty in others.

When it comes to going under the knife, according to our latest poll, 40% of you say that you’ll never do it. But most of you fell somewhere in between wanting a little lipo and a tummy tuck, to asking us to check in with you in a few more years. Some women even said that they’d already had work done. Fillers, botox and minor “body work” seemed to be ok for many. But most drew the line at face lifts or the types of extreme surgical procedures we’ve seen in the media of late.

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Beyond the ‘Cougar’ label: Confessions of a non-cougar

cougar There are several popular definitions for the word cougar. The feline mammal not withstanding, these days a cougar is described as a woman 35 years of age or older, who pursues younger men, typically more than eight years her junior. Another, harsher definition, is one of an older woman who frequents clubs in order to score (their word, not ours) with a much younger man.  Sounds pretty predatory doesn’t it? Well, there are many women who happen to be in relationships with younger men who take issue with the term.

A couple of weeks ago I had the pleasure of interviewing Jo. Jo lives in England and is a woman in her late 30’s married to a younger man, and she does NOT want to be labeled a cougar. Throughout her life Jo had always been drawn to younger men, and in 2005 she met a man – 10 years her junior – and within a year, they were married.  Here’s what she has to say about marriage, marriage to a younger man, and why she hates the term ‘Cougar’. Continue reading Beyond the ‘Cougar’ label: Confessions of a non-cougar

What women at forty are saying about relationships, asking men out and cougars…

j0438386 At the beginning of the week we posed a host of questions about relationships and we’ve gotten a lot of great answers. We’re learning that women at forty aren’t afraid to be honest about their relationships and what works and what doesn’t. Today we’re sharing a few your answers…

Have you ever asked a guy out? Why or why not? We received the most responses to this question – here’s some of what you had to say…

“Yes, but I’m not comfortable with it. Plus I worry about the future with a man who is interested but doesn’t even have the initiative to ask me out himself.”

“Of course!! I didn’t meet my husband until I was 32. Lord knows I wasn’t going to always wait around for the man to ask. Although, I will say it’s nicer when they did. 🙂

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… is good for the gander

Yesterday I took a look at a few older men with younger women, today it’s the older women’s turn. I think you’ll notice a couple big differences between the older men of yesterday’s post and the older women of today’s. Their stomachs for one. These women don’t have any. A couple of the men yesterday had enough for all of them.  Here goes…

Geena Davis & Reza Jarrahy

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Geena Davis’ dog bit Reza Jarrahy on the butt and the rest is history. She’s 15 years older and this is her fourth marriage.

Source: Live Journal

Carey & Cannon

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Eyebrows were raised (those who could muster up enough energy or concern to lift them) when Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon married just a few months after meeting. In light of some of the other age differences, 11 years actually seems like not much of a big deal, especially when you consider that 1) Carey takes mutton dressed like lamb to a whole new level and 2) Canon says that when they first met, they instantly connected because “we are both eternally 12 years old.” That’s great unless someone decides to grows up.

Source: MTV

Kim Cattral & Allan Wyse

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The 51 year old Sex in the City’s star found herself a 28 year old Canadian chef and the two were together for a while. Is it me or does he kind of look like one of the Elves from Lord of the Rings?

Source: Live Journal

Patrick Dempsey & Rochelle Parker


Here’s a blast from the past. Before he was McDreamy he was a nerdy kid playing nerdy, loveable high school kids in a string of 80’s hits. So loveable in fact that his manager at the time, Rochelle Parker, fell for and married the 21 year old. She was 47 years old and Dempsey was also her son’s best friend. Hmmm… The couple eventually divorced and Dempsey remarried.

Source: Grey’s Anatomy Insider

Demi Moore & Ashton Kutcher


No May-December couple list would be complete without the couple that some argue, made cougars a hot trend. By all accounts and via constant Twitter updates, attention hound Kutcher and wife Moore seem to be happy.  When they married in 2005, she was 42 and he 27. This is Moore’s third marriage.


Susan Sarandon & Tim Robbins

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Long before cougars, Moore & Kutcher, and stupid reality shows exploiting the trend, Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins were an item. In fact, they’ve been together since 1988. And while their 12 year age difference don’t raise as many eyebrows in 2009 as it did 20 years ago, the fact that they’re still together says a lot.

I can’t help but notice how attractive and physically fit these women are. I also can’t help comparing them to their male counterparts from yesterday. It’s not like I’ve discovered the holy grail here. We all know that in our society women are coveted for their beauty and men for their power. When a man finds a woman with beauty and power, he snatches her up. Women however, well, let’s just say beauty isn’t as important (Donald Trump anyone.) It’s a double standard, but it’s one that we’re used to.

What are your thoughts on May-December romances? Have you ever been in one, or are you in one now? Would you do it again? Share your thoughts in our comment section or on our Facebook fan page.