The pursuit of passion: Have we given up?

j0399847 Yesterday we kicked off our Relationships 2.0 series with questions about a host of relationship related issues like dating younger men, the elusive hunt for the alleged “good” men and the ways we go about forming relationships differ in our 40’s than in our 20’s and 30’s. We’ve already gotten some great feedback which we’ll be sharing over the next several days, but today’s conversation is about passion and how our pursuit of passion changes as we get older. has several definitions for the word passion including:

  • any powerful or compelling emotion or feeling, as love or hate.
  • strong amorous feeling or desire; love; ardor.
  • strong sexual desire; lust.
  • an instance or experience of strong love or sexual desire.

So today’s question – well one of them anyway – is, as we get older, do we trade the kind of passion defined above for something else, and if so, what’s the trade-off?

In our 20’s and even 30’s, relationships can be especially emotionally charged with lots of drama and passion. There’s fighting, making up, the sense of needing or wanting to be with someone so strongly that being apart from that person can at times seem physically painful. But as we get older, do we still allow ourselves to feel that intensely about another person or relationship? As we become more mature, more practical, more grounded, do we throw passion out the window for something else?

Is there a way to keep passion as strong as the day you first met your partner and would more relationships stand the test of time if there was? Simply put, in our 40s, whether we’re meeting someone for the first time or we’re in a long term relationship, is passion as important as it used to be?

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